Over the years, the EFRJ Secretariat sometimes observed instances of polarization within the restorative justice community. Some struggled to embrace those perceived as the “difficult other”, leading to tensions in various aspects of our work. This happened, for example, with the choice of the venues for our events, with the launch of new publications on innovative themes, or with the set-up of new cooperation projects or networks. We noticed challenges where competition (for recognition, funding, innovative themes and/or representation) has created divisions among us.
Some of these tensions were solved thanks to our common knowledge of restorative practice principles, i.e. by listening and sharing with openness and respect and with a non-judgmental attitude, few times also through the confrontation with the other, until an agreement was reached. Other tensions were only the “tip of the iceberg”, showing only a small part of a much bigger situation we could not approach.
When tensions arise in dark times, or because of the dark times we live in, it may be too hard to be coherent with restorative principles. Our attention may focus on what is familiar to us, what interests us, what we consider important, and we may forget to acknowledge others’ experiences. Differences (in beliefs and experiences) may be perceived as threats and intimidations and we run the risk to adopt a “us vs. them” model and “black & white” lenses to look at the world. But how can we be coherent with the values and principles we represent, even in dark times?